Comments on: Empty Carts Or Empty Promises? http://www.butfirstwehavecoffee.com/2009/08/empty-carts-or-empty-promises/ Older women...encourage the young women...so that the word of God will not be dishonored. Thu, 01 Dec 2011 01:36:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Celia http://www.butfirstwehavecoffee.com/2009/08/empty-carts-or-empty-promises/comment-page-1/#comment-613 Celia Tue, 13 Oct 2009 13:54:25 +0000 http://www.butfirstwehavecoffee.com/?p=813#comment-613 THANK YOU FOR THIS POST! I have a 3 year old, 1 1/2 year old, and newborn and I can relate to feeling like the whole day is spent disciplining! It is frustrating, exhausting, and defeating at times. It is so difficult to work so hard and feel as if it is getting you nowhere. I keep on keeping on, though because of the advice of more experienced moms like you! My dear friend and mentor (who has 5 grown boys) reminds me that the fruit of my labor may take a long time to see, but when it is here it is sweeter than anything! Thank you for sharing and one of those empty carts was probably mine! THANK YOU FOR THIS POST! I have a 3 year old, 1 1/2 year old, and newborn and I can relate to feeling like the whole day is spent disciplining! It is frustrating, exhausting, and defeating at times. It is so difficult to work so hard and feel as if it is getting you nowhere. I keep on keeping on, though because of the advice of more experienced moms like you! My dear friend and mentor (who has 5 grown boys) reminds me that the fruit of my labor may take a long time to see, but when it is here it is sweeter than anything! Thank you for sharing and one of those empty carts was probably mine!

]]> By: (((((HUGS))))) sandi http://www.butfirstwehavecoffee.com/2009/08/empty-carts-or-empty-promises/comment-page-1/#comment-541 (((((HUGS))))) sandi Mon, 07 Sep 2009 20:02:22 +0000 http://www.butfirstwehavecoffee.com/?p=813#comment-541 *THANK YOU!* for this! Honestly, I am currently in need of it.... (((((HUGS))))) sandi *THANK YOU!* for this! Honestly, I am currently in need of it…. (((((HUGS))))) sandi

]]> By: JennInSeattle http://www.butfirstwehavecoffee.com/2009/08/empty-carts-or-empty-promises/comment-page-1/#comment-532 JennInSeattle Fri, 04 Sep 2009 04:28:35 +0000 http://www.butfirstwehavecoffee.com/?p=813#comment-532 Hey - just wanted to update that we left two stores a couple of weeks ago. My son was devastated! He'd pulled his sister's hair repeatedly, pushed over boxes of food on the shelves, yelled at me for not taking him down another toy isle (he just turned 6 not 4) and I'd had it so I left one store and then another even though my grocery cart was 2/3rds full. The manager understood and put away my groceries. My son received a spanking and took a nap. Let's pray he got that message loud and clear, he cried for a long time over it. Thank you for this reminder, such a simple form of discipline that has been, so often in my life, not used. Hey – just wanted to update that we left two stores a couple of weeks ago. My son was devastated! He’d pulled his sister’s hair repeatedly, pushed over boxes of food on the shelves, yelled at me for not taking him down another toy isle (he just turned 6 not 4) and I’d had it so I left one store and then another even though my grocery cart was 2/3rds full. The manager understood and put away my groceries. My son received a spanking and took a nap. Let’s pray he got that message loud and clear, he cried for a long time over it. Thank you for this reminder, such a simple form of discipline that has been, so often in my life, not used.

]]> By: Sharla http://www.butfirstwehavecoffee.com/2009/08/empty-carts-or-empty-promises/comment-page-1/#comment-516 Sharla Wed, 19 Aug 2009 00:20:06 +0000 http://www.butfirstwehavecoffee.com/?p=813#comment-516 Wow that is so funny that I stumbled on this post, I just had a verse exam that I took and it was on those verses above. I knew that the Bible called for discipline, but it's amazing the clarity that it gives! I loved reading your blog! GB~ Sharla~ Wow that is so funny that I stumbled on this post, I just had a verse exam that I took and it was on those verses above. I knew that the Bible called for discipline, but it’s amazing the clarity that it gives! I loved reading your blog!
GB~
Sharla~

]]> By: Zinnada http://www.butfirstwehavecoffee.com/2009/08/empty-carts-or-empty-promises/comment-page-1/#comment-514 Zinnada Tue, 18 Aug 2009 19:51:05 +0000 http://www.butfirstwehavecoffee.com/?p=813#comment-514 I'm having to tighten up on my first boy. It seems like boys are different, but I'm determined that he'll fall in line with the rest of them. Whenever I see mothers faced with those problems, I pray for them. I pray because I don't know if that mother knows the Lord and the world is so CRAZY now. I wouldn't want that to be the last day that I saw that Mom or that child. Meaning, Mommy could get that fed up and decide that that day was the day that she or that child will die today. LOL I know that's no joking matter. That's why I'm often lead to pray for that mother's patience in dealing with that child instead of turning my nose up. Zinnada< I’m having to tighten up on my first boy. It seems like boys are different, but I’m determined that he’ll fall in line with the rest of them.

Whenever I see mothers faced with those problems, I pray for them. I pray because I don’t know if that mother knows the Lord and the world is so CRAZY now. I wouldn’t want that to be the last day that I saw that Mom or that child. Meaning, Mommy could get that fed up and decide that that day was the day that she or that child will die today. LOL

I know that’s no joking matter. That’s why I’m often lead to pray for that mother’s patience in dealing with that child instead of turning my nose up.

Zinnada<

]]> By: JennInSeattle http://www.butfirstwehavecoffee.com/2009/08/empty-carts-or-empty-promises/comment-page-1/#comment-512 JennInSeattle Tue, 18 Aug 2009 15:44:17 +0000 http://www.butfirstwehavecoffee.com/?p=813#comment-512 Continued... Sadly, Elizabeth pushed Joshua first thing this morning. She recieved "punishment" and lost all of the toys she was so preciously protecting. She will play with none of them today and he will play with them instead. I hope this lesson is over soon for both of us. Thank you again for the reminder, I needed it. Teach (I've started, since yesterday, using my brain on this and teaching them to behave the way I think they should, and the Bible talks about, behave instead of trying to find the magic parenting secrets for all scenarious and discipline diligently which means stopping typing or eating or whatever it takes to go handle the situation with whatever it calls for). I'm praying the Lord will make this successful, not just today but long term. Thank you for saying what I needed to hear... again. Continued…
Sadly, Elizabeth pushed Joshua first thing this morning. She recieved “punishment” and lost all of the toys she was so preciously protecting. She will play with none of them today and he will play with them instead. I hope this lesson is over soon for both of us. Thank you again for the reminder, I needed it. Teach (I’ve started, since yesterday, using my brain on this and teaching them to behave the way I think they should, and the Bible talks about, behave instead of trying to find the magic parenting secrets for all scenarious and discipline diligently which means stopping typing or eating or whatever it takes to go handle the situation with whatever it calls for). I’m praying the Lord will make this successful, not just today but long term.
Thank you for saying what I needed to hear… again.

]]> By: melyssa http://www.butfirstwehavecoffee.com/2009/08/empty-carts-or-empty-promises/comment-page-1/#comment-511 melyssa Tue, 18 Aug 2009 13:42:25 +0000 http://www.butfirstwehavecoffee.com/?p=813#comment-511 My first real and honest "mommy moment" was 8 years ago when I called my husband in tears and said, 'You know THAT mom in WalMart? Today I was THAT mom...' Now I have two little women who know how to behave in the store (or a waiting room, or a library, or church, whathaveyou) but after a bit of a baby break, we have our third munchkin who is about to be (gasp!) two. Ahhh, now is the time for this training and while I can't lie and say I'm looking forward to it, it's good to know God and lots of mommies are on my side! My first real and honest “mommy moment” was 8 years ago when I called my husband in tears and said, ‘You know THAT mom in WalMart? Today I was THAT mom…’

Now I have two little women who know how to behave in the store (or a waiting room, or a library, or church, whathaveyou) but after a bit of a baby break, we have our third munchkin who is about to be (gasp!) two. Ahhh, now is the time for this training and while I can’t lie and say I’m looking forward to it, it’s good to know God and lots of mommies are on my side!

]]> By: JennInSeattle http://www.butfirstwehavecoffee.com/2009/08/empty-carts-or-empty-promises/comment-page-1/#comment-508 JennInSeattle Tue, 18 Aug 2009 05:56:55 +0000 http://www.butfirstwehavecoffee.com/?p=813#comment-508 I wish I was better at this. Today Elizabeth (3) pushed Joshua (1) because he wanted to get on her ottoman. He fell and his tooth went into his lip (not pretty though thankfully not through). She had to stop watching her Dora episode. But after waiting about 15 minutes I let her watch the rest (she kept insisting she wouldn't push him again and she was sorry). As soon as I put it on I knew I shouldn't have. She didn't push him again but that wasn't the point. She pushes him often and this might have made a point. I need to abandon the "cart" more often. Thanks Ruth. I wish I was better at this. Today Elizabeth (3) pushed Joshua (1) because he wanted to get on her ottoman. He fell and his tooth went into his lip (not pretty though thankfully not through). She had to stop watching her Dora episode. But after waiting about 15 minutes I let her watch the rest (she kept insisting she wouldn’t push him again and she was sorry). As soon as I put it on I knew I shouldn’t have. She didn’t push him again but that wasn’t the point. She pushes him often and this might have made a point. I need to abandon the “cart” more often. Thanks Ruth.

]]> By: Belinda Letchford http://www.butfirstwehavecoffee.com/2009/08/empty-carts-or-empty-promises/comment-page-1/#comment-506 Belinda Letchford Mon, 17 Aug 2009 21:15:14 +0000 http://www.butfirstwehavecoffee.com/?p=813#comment-506 I liked your take on "one day at a time" - We do have to be so intentional don't we. I too abandoned trolleys when my kids were little. You let them know you will still be consistent when out and about it their behavour starts to line up with your expectations. Great post. I liked your take on “one day at a time” – We do have to be so intentional don’t we. I too abandoned trolleys when my kids were little. You let them know you will still be consistent when out and about it their behavour starts to line up with your expectations. Great post.

]]> By: Ginger http://www.butfirstwehavecoffee.com/2009/08/empty-carts-or-empty-promises/comment-page-1/#comment-505 Ginger Mon, 17 Aug 2009 20:22:47 +0000 http://www.butfirstwehavecoffee.com/?p=813#comment-505 Amen, I learned that lesson after my first, she was/is a brat then, my fault completely.... Thankfully, my others have learned that lesson well. Amen, I learned that lesson after my first, she was/is a brat then, my fault completely…. Thankfully, my others have learned that lesson well.

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