When considering discipline for your young family, I would encourage you to not go with what your opinion or feelings are on the topic, but instead, read God’s Word on it, plainly. No tricks, just read it in context when it comes to anything having to do with discipline. You might also begin with the free Word document on discipline on the right bar in the free section, which has the definitions of words about discipline.
If you are obedient to God’s Word, I can attest that in 20 years, your children will rise up and call you blessed. I cannot tell you how awesome it is to have 5 teenagers in the home who are not what the world thinks teenagers should be. We have several adult children, who know full well that they may leave any time if they chose not to be under their father’s head. However, they have joyfully chosen to remain here. My sons are fine young men. None of my kids go off and hide in their rooms to avoid us. They love to be with us. They think their dad is the coolest guy on earth! This is not because of us. This is not because we were lucky. It is not because our parents were fine, godly examples. You see, my husband’s parents were exasperating to one extreme (beating him on a whim, as the emotions swayed) while my parents were exasperating me to the other extent (was not spanked and received my way because it was easier that way. I ruled the home). We knew there had to be a better way.
We found *one* family in our local fellowship who had notable teenagers who loved and were serving the Lord. We invited them over and quizzed them. They led us back to a Richard Fugate book and God’s Word. Ahhhh What a blessing to have the foundation of God’s Word in our lives.
Now, both our parents thought we were raising our children wrong. They don’t say that anymore! They see the fruit. They love to be with our kids and our kids enjoy being with them. Our kids don’t hide away, trying to avoid their grandparents as many teenagers do.
I can assure you that when we accept the wisdom that God laid down in His Word, it might be difficult at first (as it was for me), but the end result is a blessing. Remember, too, discipline is not just the use of the rod. Discipline is oh so much more! That is why someone recommended Shepherding a Child’s Heart. It addresses this very issue.